For most of my life, I lived with what I now recognize as a Cinderella Complex—the belief that I was the helpless princess waiting for a handsome prince to rescue me. That mindset led me through a series of painful relationships, a disastrous marriage, and eventually a heartbreaking divorce. In an attempt to escape the pain of living near my ex-husband and the woman he left me for, I rushed into another marriage—this time to a Christian man—hoping he would be the one to finally make me whole. But in reality, it felt like I had jumped from the frying pan into the fire.
In the midst of my confusion and heartache, I’ve had many honest conversations with God. I’ve told Him I don’t ever want to miss His will again. And through different confirmations, He’s shown me that He is interested in this marriage—that there are deep, precious lessons He wants to teach me through it, lessons that will ultimately bring glory to His name. The very first one He began to reveal was the true role of a wife.
She wasn’t created as an assistant. She was created as an answer.
Somewhere along the way, the word “helper” was watered down — turned into something quiet, background, optional. But in God’s eyes, the woman was never a backup plan. She was a divine solution.
🌧 A World Half Covered
Imagine a battlefield. A soldier stands alone, armor on, sword shaking in his hand. The enemy surrounds him. He’s called by God to stand, to lead — but every arrow coming at him is finding its mark. He wasn’t built to do this alone.
Then someone steps onto the battlefield. Not behind him — beside him. Shield raised. Eyes sharp. Praying under her breath. Covering his back.
This is ēzer.
1. “Helper” — The Word That Describes God
“I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18
The Hebrew word for helper is ʿēzer. And most of the time this word appears in the Bible, it’s referring to God Himself.
“The Lord is my help (ʿēzer) and my shield.” – Psalm 33:20
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help (ʿēzer) in trouble.” – Psalm 46:1
So when God said Eve would be Adam’s “helper”, He wasn’t talking about an assistant or a housekeeper. He was describing someone who would reflect His own nature — His strength, His support, His presence in the battle.
Eve was created to:
Stand beside Adam as an equal and strong ally
Protect him in prayer and purpose
Strengthen him when he is weary
Carry God’s presence and wisdom into the home
War spiritually on his behalf, like God wars for us
This is not a weak design. It is a warrior’s design.
2. A Helper Who Covers — Not Controls
Being an ēzer does not mean:
Controlling your husband
Criticizing him when he fails
Acting superior or self-righteous
It means:
Praying when he is under attack
Encouraging when he feels inadequate
Speaking life when he hears only failure
Standing firm in faith when he can’t
Covering him — like God covers us
Submission is not silence, and helping is not weakness. It’s choosing to fight — but fighting for him, not against him.
3. Why Your Role Matters More Than You Know
Men carry a weight from God — the call to lead, protect, provide, and carry responsibility. But God never intended for him to do it alone. Eve was the answer to “It is not good for man to be alone.”
Without an ēzer:
His faith can grow tired
His vision can become blurred
His heart can grow isolated
With an ēzer:
His faith is strengthened
His purpose is sharpened
His heart is covered in prayer
Satan hates marriages like this — because a praying wife is dangerous.
4. Scriptures to Stand On
Here are key verses that reveal the power of a woman’s role:
Scripture
What It Shows About a Wife’s Role
Genesis 2:18
God created her as an ēzer — a strong ally.
Proverbs 31:12
She brings her husband good, not harm, all her days.
Proverbs 31:23
Her husband is respected — because of her influence.
1 Peter 3:7
She is a co-heir of grace — equal before God.
Ephesians 5:21–25
Marriage is mutual submission and sacrificial love.
Proverbs 31:25
“She is clothed with strength and dignity.”
5. A Prayer for Wives to Pray Over Their Husbands
Lord, thank You for the gift of my husband. Thank You for calling me to be his ēzer — his God-given ally, intercessor, and encourager. Today, I stand in prayer over his life. Cover his heart with Your peace. Strengthen his mind with Your truth. Protect him from the lies of the enemy and the weight of this world. Give me wisdom to speak life and love, not criticism. Teach me to fight for him on my knees — not with my words. Let our marriage reflect Your heart: unity, honor, strength, and grace. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
💛 Final Thought
You were never called to be silent or small — you were called to be essential. To stand beside, not behind. To cover, not control. To help — with the strength of the One who helps you.
This is the power of Eve. This is the calling of every woman who chooses to walk in God’s original design.
There’s a verse in the book of James that says, “Mercy triumphs over judgment” (James 2:13). Every time I read it, I’m reminded of the incredible mercy Jesus showed to us — the mercy that changed everything. He didn’t just forgive our sins in a moment; He forgave them for all time. His sacrifice on the cross was the ultimate act of mercy — not only covering our past, but securing our future in His grace. Because of that mercy, even when I fall, I know His forgiveness is already waiting for me. It doesn’t push me away in shame; it pulls me closer. His mercy gives me the confidence to run to Him, not from Him.
And that changes the way I see others too. If Jesus could show that kind of mercy toward me — complete, undeserved, and unconditional — how can I withhold mercy from someone else? It’s so easy to judge, to measure people by their mistakes or by what we think they deserve. But mercy reminds us that none of us stand where we do because we earned it. We are here because grace met us where judgment should have fallen.
When Jesus walked this earth, He never turned away the broken, the outcast, or the sinner. Instead of condemning, He restored. Instead of shaming, He lifted up. His mercy was not passive — it was powerful. It transformed lives. Every act of compassion Jesus showed was a reflection of the Father’s heart: mercy triumphing over judgment.
This verse also reminds me of another one: “Though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again” (Proverbs 24:16). That’s what grace looks like — not a license to fall, but the strength to rise. God’s grace doesn’t erase our humanity; it redeems it. It allows us to fall forward, not backward. Each stumble becomes an opportunity to encounter His mercy again.
And the truth is, even those of us who boldly declare, “God is good,” have only tasted a fraction of that goodness. His mercy is deeper, His grace is wider, and His love is far greater than we can ever comprehend. His goodness doesn’t just meet us at our best moments — it meets us right in the middle of our mess.
So today, let’s allow this truth to change how we see both God and others. If mercy triumphs over judgment in His heart, let it triumph in ours too. If His grace keeps lifting us every time we fall, then may we also be the kind of people who help others rise again.
Because the more we understand His mercy, the less room there is for judgment. And the more we see His goodness, the more we realize — we’ve barely begun to grasp just how goodHe really is.
Have you ever wondered why the Word seems to sometimes contradict itself? One moment we read Hebrews 13:5 telling us not to be obsessed with money and to be content with what we have, and then in 3 John 2 we’re told that God’s desire is that we prosper in all things and be in health. But instead of opposing ideas, these verses create a beautiful harmony that reveals God’s heart: He doesn’t want money to have us, yet He absolutely delights in pouring out His goodness and provision into our lives.
Picture Scripture as a grand symphony rather than a single note. When it speaks about money, prosperity, gratitude, and health, it isn’t contradicting itself. Instead, it plays a rich harmony that points our hearts to a Person: Jesus, the lavishly generous King who also frees us from the tyranny of chasing things that can never satisfy.
Here’s a perspective in a few melodic movements:
1.God is our source, not money
Scriptures like Hebrews 13:5 say,
“Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have”
because the love and obsession with money is like trying to drink sand: no matter how much you gulp, the thirst remains. The Word reminds us that our needs are met not by our anxieties or striving, but by a Father who says, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” His way means money becomes a tool rather than a master.
2. Contentment is rooted in relationship, not circumstances.
Contentment in the kingdom isn’t settling for less. It’s living from the revelation of WHO we already have. When you realize the King of the cosmos is your Abba, you can relax your shoulders and sigh with relief. Gratitude grows naturally when we see all things as gifts of grace, not achievements we must sustain by fear.
3. Prosperity is not greed; it’s overflow with purpose
Paul writes, “Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in all things and be in health, just as your soul prospers” (3 John 2). Grace-based teaching understands this as prosperity from the inside out. Where your soul is well-watered in God’s love, your life begins to bloom in every direction: emotional wellness, healthy relationships, joyful generosity, and yes, the practical means to bless others. Prosperity becomes a garden God cultivates, not a trophy we chase.
4. Grace invites us to receive, not strive
Jesus said in Matthew 6:33,
“Seek first the kingdom… and all these things will be added.”
He didn’t say “sweat and scramble.” God enjoys blessing His kids. But He doesn’t want the gift to replace the Giver. Grace (the Person of Jesus) removes fear and frees us to enjoy provision without being enslaved by it.
5. Overflow leads to generosity
Like a cup under a waterfall, God’s prosperity isn’t meant to be hoarded but shared. When Paul speaks of abundance, it often comes with the purpose ofgood works, generosity, and supporting the gospel(2 Corinthians 9:8). Heaven’s economy flows, it never clogs.
So the exquisite harmony found in God’s Word sounds something like this:
Be grateful for what you already have, know that your Father delights to care for you, and expect His goodness to overflow from your life, not as a god you pursue but as a blessing that follows you like a loyal puppy.
Contentment says you are already rich in Christ. Prosperity is merely your experience catching up to that truth.
Thank you for reading this. I would love to hear your thoughts. Let’s talk about it.
I just had a young lady confess that she has been stuck in a cycle of guilt and condemnation because she was abused at a young age. After that trauma, she was “taught” behaviors that led her down a painful road of addiction and lustful thinking. Her story broke my heart — not because of her sin, but because of the heavy shame she has carried for so long.
You see, she took the first step toward freedom from this bondage the moment she became vulnerable enough to speak it out loud. That moment of honesty is sacred — it’s where healing begins.
As Brené Brown teaches, “Shame needs three things to grow exponentially in our lives: secrecy, silence, and judgment.” When we hide in shame, it festers. When we speak out in truth, light floods in and darkness flees. But the enemy knows this — and he loves nothing more than to keep us trapped in cycles of guilt, self-condemnation, and mental torment.
The Bible gives us a clear strategy for breaking these cycles:
“We can demolish every deceptive fantasy that opposes God and break through every arrogant attitude that is raised up in defiance of the true knowledge of God. We capture, like prisoners of war, every thought and insist that it bow in obedience to the Anointed One.” — 2 Corinthians 10:5-6 (The Passion Translation)
This is where my personal struggle has always been — taking control of my thoughts. I allowed lies about my worth and my failures to rule my mind. I lived trapped in condemnation, rehearsing the same thoughts over and over, believing I was unworthy, unholy, and unloved.
But here’s the real truth that sets us free: You are not a sinner trying to become righteous. You are the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus.
“For God made the only one who did not know sin to become sin for us, so that we who did not know righteousness might become the righteousness of God through our union with Him.” — 2 Corinthians 5:21 (TPT)
You have a perfect spirit — born of God — living in an imperfect body. But that doesn’t mean you’re powerless. You’ve been given authority through Christ to take every thought captive, to silence the lies, and to walk in freedom.
So if you’re struggling in an area of shame — whether from something that happened to you or from something you’ve done — remind yourself who you truly are. You’re not defined by your mistakes, temptations, or struggles. You are defined by Jesus — His righteousness, His victory, and His love.
Let His truth speak louder than the enemy’s accusations. Freedom begins with vulnerability, but it’s sustained through renewed thinking — through seeing yourself as God already sees you: whole, righteous, and free.
And now, what you have to do is declare this over yourself — out loud. The Word says that our minds are renewed through the hearing of the Word, and your mind will hear it all the better when you’re the one saying it.
“So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” — Romans 10:17 (NKJV)
Speak This Over Yourself:
“I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. I have been set free from the power of sin and shame. I take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. My mind is renewed by the Word of God. I walk in freedom, in peace, and in the authority Jesus has given me. The enemy has no hold over my mind, my body, or my life. I am loved. I am chosen. I am whole. I am free — in Jesus’ name.”
I’ve been trying—for what feels like the hundredth time—to follow a Bible reading plan that takes you through the entire Bible in a year. I’ve started this project before, full of enthusiasm and good intentions, only to lose steam a few weeks or months in. I would fall behind a few days, feel guilty, and then quietly give up when the distance between me and the plan felt too wide to close.
But this year has felt different.
I’ve given myself grace for the days I fall behind and have remained determined to keep going. I’ve stopped reading just to check a box and started reading to listen. Each day I ask, “God, what do You want me to see in this?” And what I’ve found is that when I lean in—even when I’m tired or distracted—He speaks.
Lately, He’s been speaking through the story of David.
For most of my life, I saw David as one of the Bible’s heroes. The boy who slayed Goliath. The worshipper. The king. The man after God’s own heart. I’d heard about his affair with Bathsheba, and I assumed that was his one dark moment—his single failure.
But as I read through 1 and 2 Samuel, I was stunned.
Not only did David commit adultery, but even after being forgiven and restored, he went on to disobey God repeatedly. He made choices that led to pain, destruction, and death. And yet—God still loved him. God still used him. God still called him His own.
David’s Repeated Disobedience
Infraction
Scripture Reference
What Happened
Polygamy
2 Samuel 5:13
David took many wives and concubines—against God’s design for marriage.
Adultery with Bathsheba
2 Samuel 11
David saw a woman bathing, took her, and got her pregnant—knowing she was another man’s wife.
Murder of Uriah
2 Samuel 11
To cover up the pregnancy, he arranged for Bathsheba’s husband to be killed in battle.
Parental Negligence
2 Samuel 13–18
He failed to confront his son Amnon for raping Tamar, leading to Absalom’s revenge and rebellion.
A Prideful Census
2 Samuel 24
David ordered a military census in pride and self-reliance. God responded with a deadly plague.
Trusting in Enemies
1 Samuel 27
Out of fear, he sought safety with the Philistines and even offered to fight for them.
As I read these stories—these painful, messy, complicated accounts—I heard the Lord whisper something that shifted everything in my spirit—it was as if a veil had been lifted, and suddenly I saw His heart more clearly.
“I knew everything David would do—and I still chose him. I still loved him. I still delighted in him.”
And in that moment, I felt His presence wash over me. “I knew everything you would do,” He said, “and I still chose you. I loved you then and I love you now. I took delight in you then, and I delight in you now. You are a woman after My own heart.”
I’ve carried shame for years—for decisions I made, for paths I took, for times I knew better and still chose wrong. But God isn’t looking for perfection. He’s looking for a heart that turns back to Him, again and again. David was deeply flawed—but he was also deeply surrendered. He repented. He worshipped. He trusted. And God, in His mercy, stayed close.
If you’ve ever found the Bible boring or irrelevant, maybe it’s because you’ve been skimming the surface. But underneath the words is the heartbeat of a God who sees you fully, loves you deeply, and delights in speaking to you through every page.
You won’t just find history in these stories—you’ll find hope.
And perhaps, like me, you’ll begin to believe that you too… are someone after God’s own heart.
Oops I did it again… apparently I’m high-maintenance
So, I’ve got one more angelic encounter story for the books. Honestly, I’m think my guardian angels demand hazard pay.
There’ve been countless times when I’m pretty sure heavenly help was involved—moments where things worked out just a little too perfectly. But unlike those subtle nudges from above, this story (like the two before it) involves a full-on, no-doubt-about-it angelic intervention.
At this point, I imagine the leader of the angelic task force sighing deeply, rubbing his temples, and sending out yet another urgent memo: “Right team, she’s wandered into trouble again. Get your wings in gear—this one’s going to need backup.”
I definitely keep them on their toes. Or clouds. Or whatever angels stand on.
Heaven’s 911
This next story takes place deep in the rolling green hills of the KZN Midlands.
I was in my early 30s at the time—still single, still hopeful (mostly), and heading off for a much-needed weekend getaway in the Drakensberg Mountains. My travel buddy? Jane. Also single, newly divorced, and very much in need of mountain air, strong coffee, and possibly divine intervention.
Jane and I had met at church, though technically she was my mom’s hairdresser first—someone I’d adopted after a particularly traumatic home perm situation. We bonded over the usual: heartbreak, horror dates, and how most decent men seemed to have gone extinct somewhere around 1996. Our shared survival of the dating scene in our 30s created a friendship forged in fire… and flat hair days.
For our Drakensberg adventure, we decided to take my car—a shiny (well, sometimes dusty) little Mazda 323 that was still fairly new at the time. What could possibly go wrong, right?
Now, if you’ve read any of my previous stories, you’re probably starting to notice a pattern: me + car trip = angel alert at Heaven’s emergency desk. I’m convinced the minute I put a key in the ignition, there’s a siren going off in the heavenly control room.
“She’s on the road again, folks. Buckle up and grab the holy toolkit—this one’s gonna need us.”
And sure enough, this trip didn’t disappoint.
Angels, Mist, and One Very Unimpressed Cow
It was around 6 p.m. when we veered off the N3 and onto the road to Underberg—a stretch of road that locals will tell you is less of a road and more of a real-life game of Taxi Chicken. It’s narrow, it’s winding, and apparently it comes with a built-in “death wish” mode for minibus drivers doing 120 km/h into oncoming traffic.
As we hit that infamous road, the mist rolled in—thick, cold, and clingy. Autumn in the Midlands does that. One minute you’re driving, the next you’re starring in your own horror movie with a visibility rating of “LOL, good luck”.
Naturally, I eased off the accelerator, dropping to a cautious 70 km/h while Jane and I muttered hopeful prayers that no taxis would try anything dramatic. We had literally just said, “Let’s hope no one does a kamikaze overtake,” when things took a turn. (A literal one.)
I rounded a bend—and there it was.
Out of the swirling mist emerged a massive cow. Not walking. Not crossing. Just standing. Sideways. Right in the middle of our lane like it was contemplating life, chewing its cud, and couldn’t care less about Mazda-shaped problems.
I did what every panicked driver instinctively does: I slammed the brakes. (Mistake number one.) Because, surprise, mist and tar make an excellent slip-and-slide combo.
Everything slowed down like I was suddenly in The Matrix: Midlands Edition. I saw Jane brace for impact. I felt the car start to slide. And I watched in helpless, high-definition horror as we drifted straight into the bovine blockade.
There was no dramatic swerve. No movie-style dodge. Just the cold, slippery truth of physics. We hit the cow.
Straight on.
And then it slowly slid up the hood of my car. In that surreal moment, I actually had a thought:
“I’m about to have a whole lot of fillet on my lap.
Moo-ving Toward Impact
We’d heard the stories. Everyone in the Midlands knows someone—or knows someone who knows someone—who hit an animal with their car and didn’t walk away from it. So as the cow slid up my bonnet in cinematic slow motion, a wave of cold dread hit me harder than the actual impact.
My brain was spiraling. Was this it? Was this the bizarre, mist-covered end of my life story? “She lived, she loved, and then she lost a high-speed showdown with a cow.” It was terrifying.
Miraculously, the cow stopped sliding just short of my windscreen. But then—like a final dramatic move in a bovine ballet—its head and legs flopped over, leaving a massive dent in my roof and side panels. And then, as if following some invisible director’s cue, the cow slowly slid off the car and onto the road with an undignified thud.
All I could see was the front of my once-proud little Mazda now crumpled like a used napkin. We sat there frozen. Time felt weird. It might’ve been five minutes… it was probably more like five seconds. Silence hung thick in the mist.
Eventually, I snapped out of it just long enough to register that my car had come to a full stop—on the wrong side of the road.
Facing oncoming traffic.
Had anyone else been barreling around that corner like the taxis were earlier, we’d have had a full-speed head-on collision with a cow acting as a grotesque bumper.
Then we heard it.
Mooing. Loud. Pained. Drawn-out.
The cow was very much alive—and not at all happy about its impromptu ride on my car. Jane, ever the tender-hearted vegetarian, immediately covered her ears and began whisper-praying on repeat: “Please, Lord, don’t let the cow die. Please don’t let the cow die. Please, please don’t let the cow die…”
Meanwhile, I stared at the front of my poor, crumpled Mazda—hood folded, bumper gone, headlights blinking in confusion—and I’ll be honest: I wasn’t praying for the cow’s survival. In that moment, after all the damage it had done, I was lowkey hoping for slow internal bleeding. I know that’s terrible, but so was the dent in my roof.
Then Heaven Sent a Land Cruiser
Just as we were about to peel ourselves out of the car, headlights cut through the mist behind us. A large Land Cruiser pulled up—one of those big, rugged ones that look like they’ve driven through battlefields and Sunday braais alike. I assumed it was a group of local farmers. From what I could see, there were two guys in the front and three standing casually on the back like it was a khaki-clad chariot.
They all jumped out in one fluid motion, like some kind of Midlands SWAT team.
The driver and one of the guys came straight to my door, opened it without hesitation, and gently helped me out. Two more did the same for Jane. The last one jogged to the front of the car and crouched near the cow, giving it a once-over like a vet-slash-cow-whisperer.
“Hey,” I heard him call out, “we might need the gun—she’s in bad shape.”
Jane immediately gasped. Her vegetarian heart just about gave out. I, on the other hand, was still in shock and had just about resigned myself to my car being declared a total write-off—possibly by insurance, definitely by God.
Once we’d convinced these rugged, handsome khaki angels that we were physically fine (emotionally? Debatable), one of them suggested we move the car out of the oncoming lane before we added more trauma to the evening.
Two of the guys sprinted in opposite directions to flag down traffic, waving their arms and moving with military precision. Where I’d been stuck in slow motion just moments before, these guys were operating on fast-forward—like bushveld paramedics with a soft spot for damsels and livestock.
I never actually saw a gun, but I was bracing for the worst. Then, just as the mist seemed to swallow the road around us, another shape emerged from the fog.
A second cow.
It walked calmly toward its injured friend, leaned in, and licked her ear.
And just like that, the mooing stopped.
As if on cue, the “injured” cow stood up—possibly out of embarrassment—and the two of them trotted off together into the field, vanishing like ghost cows into the mist. It was surreal. Jane, nearly in tears from relief, waved them off like long-lost friends, beaming with joy. “No one had to die tonight!” she exclaimed.
Wheels, Winks, and One Last Moo-ving Moment
Now that the cow had miraculously walked off and the Mazda was safely back on the correct side of the road, one of our rugged, khaki-clad angels turned to me and asked, “Do you want to try start your car?”
Honestly, I didn’t think it had it in her. But I climbed in, turned the key… and she started first time. Like nothing had happened. As if we hadn’t just body-slammed half a ton of livestock.
The driver of the Land Cruiser leaned in and said, “We’ll follow you the rest of the way to your resort, just to make sure you’re alright.”
I blinked. “Are you sure? It’s still quite a way to go.”
He just nodded, calm and confident. “We’ll follow.”
And that was that.
So off we went, creeping along at a respectful speed—slow enough to make sure the wheels didn’t fall off, fast enough not to look like a parade float. I was still high on adrenaline and disbelief. Jane, on the other hand, had shifted gears completely.
“Why,” she hissed, “did I not hand one of them my business card? What was I thinking?!”
I mean, fair question. How often do you get rescued by five handsome farmer-types in coordinated khaki?
We reached the driveway of our resort, headlights bouncing gently off the gravel path, the mist still curling around us like a scene out of Outlander (minus the kilts, plus cows). As we pulled in, our guardian farmers gave a final hoot, a cheerful wave…
…and then vanished back into the mist.
Just like that.
No names. No numbers. No Tinder follow-ups. Just a rescue, a goodbye, and a convoy of angels with bakkie boots.
Gone—but never forgotten.
Khaki-Clad Angels and the Road to Safety
As I said at the start of this story, I’ve found myself in more situations than I can count where I know angels were working overtime behind the scenes. But on that misty Midlands road, I truly believe those khaki-clad heroes weren’t just good-hearted local farmers. They were honest-to-heaven angels—sent to pull us out of a potentially deadly encounter and see us safely to the end of our journey.
Their timing. Their calm. Their quiet confidence. It all felt too perfectly placed to be coincidence.
Sometimes, divine intervention shows up in a blinding light. Other times, it arrives in a Land Cruiser, wearing boots and a warm smile.
“For He will order His angels to protect you wherever you go.” — Psalm 91:11 (NLT)
This morning, I find myself sitting quietly in the garden at St. Dominic’s Home for the Aged in Houston, Texas. It’s a sacred little oasis—a place where time seems to slow just enough for the soul to catch its breath. The paths are lined with statues of Mary, her expression soft and maternal, and there are kneeling benches scattered among the flowers, inviting passersby to pause and pray. It’s a garden made for reflection—built for hearts seeking comfort, clarity, and connection with the divine.
As I sat on one of those benches with my Bible open and the soft rustle of leaves above me, I felt a tender whisper in my heart—one I believe came from the Lord Himself.
“I love you as much as I love My mother.”
The words stopped me.
They were too weighty to rush past, too beautiful to disregard. I sat in stillness, letting them wash over me, and found myself contemplating the mystery and mercy of such a love.
Mary—blessed, chosen, revered—was entrusted with the sacred role of bringing Jesus into the world. She was obedient, humble, and full of grace. And yet, she was also fully human. Not divine. Not a part of the Godhead. But a willing vessel.
It occurred to me: if God could use her humanity—her ordinary earthly existence—for such an extraordinary purpose, how much more might He desire to use mine now that I carry the Holy Spirit within me?
It’s a thought that might raise eyebrows in some circles, particularly among those who deeply venerate Mary, and I mean no disrespect. In fact, sitting among the statues and symbols honoring her here in the garden, I feel only peace. I understand why people pray to her—it’s not unlike talking to our own mothers. A gesture of affection, familiarity, and trust.
But the deeper revelation that settled in my soul today is this: Jesus doesn’t love me less than He loves Mary. He loves me just as much. And the plans He has for me—even in this later season of life—are not lesser than the plan He had for her. They are simply different. Still sacred. Still meaningful. Still full of eternal weight.
In the stillness of this garden, surrounded by symbols of Mary’s faithfulness and the echoes of prayers whispered through decades, I feel more aware than ever of how much I am seen, known, and loved by the Lord.
And if you’re reading this today, I hope you remember that too.
Some stories are too wild to be fiction — and too full of grace to be coincidence.
This is one of them.
It’s a true story from a chapter of my life I’ve never forgotten — a night I found myself alone, lost in the chaos of Tijuana, Mexico in 1986, without a passport, a plan, or anyone to call. What started as a carefree Friday night ended in fear, prayer, and an encounter that still gives me chills.
I believe in angels. Not the kind with harps and halos, but the kind who walk in denim and white shirts, speak peace into panic, and show up right when heaven hears your cry.
This is the story of how I got lost — and how God sent help when I needed it most.
The Missionary and the Miracle
David Livingstone, the great Scottish missionary and explorer, once recounted a chilling moment during his travels through Africa. A local tribal chief had planned to kill him and his companions that night. But mysteriously, the attack never happened. Much later, that same chief confessed to Livingstone that he had indeed come to murder them — but he and his men had seen 39 armed warriors encircling Livingstone’s camp, and out of fear, turned back.
Livingstone was stunned. He had no guards. But when he later shared this story at his home church in Scotland, one of the members stood up and said, “That night, 39 of us were praying for you.”
That story has always moved me — not just because of the divine protection it reveals, but because I too once found myself in danger, and I too was rescued in a way that felt nothing short of miraculous.
My brush with the supernatural happened one wild Friday night in Tijuana, Mexico.
Laundry Room Encounter
It all started one Saturday, shortly after moving into my new apartment. The building had a laundry room, and I figured I’d get a load done like a responsible adult.
I walked in and immediately froze in the doorway. Standing there, bent over a machine in a pair of baggies, was what looked like a walking surf ad—sun-bleached scruffy hair, broad muscly shoulders, and then, when he turned around, the bluest eyes I had ever seen outside of a perfume commercial.
“Hey, how are you!” he said with a big California grin.
We started chatting—about South Africa (my accent gave me away), Durban (he was weirdly excited about the apparently world-famous weed), and life in general.
Before I knew it, we were perched on top of the machines like old friends, folding laundry and swapping life stories. Then he asked, “Have you ever been to TJ?”
I had in fact been to Tijuana with my cousin and some friends one Saturday. It was also a good two hour drive down to the Mexican town on the US/Mexico border.
“NO but have you been at night?”, he asked.
I said I hadn’t and so he said “You must come with me on Friday?”
Uh-Oh
And despite the fact that I had a fiancé back home, I said, “OK.” (Don’t judge me—I was young, curious, and clearly dazzled by surfer charisma.)
I was warned
My cousin, with whom I was staying at the time, was a little horrified and nervous. South Africans were not allowed in Mexico because of the sanctions against South Africa because of apartheid. I convinced him that this guy would look after me.
The night finally arrived!
Friday night finally rolled around, and I was a bundle of nerves and excitement. This was it — my date with surfer-dude! I carefully selected my outfit, which, in hindsight, screamed “young Christian girl from the suburbs trying to look worldly.”
I wore a purple pencil skirt (lovingly sewn by my fiancé’s mother back in South Africa, bless her misguided heart), a white blouse, my best white “Princess Di” pumps — and to top it off, a permed 80s bouffant so voluminous it needed its own seatbelt. Honestly, I looked like I was going to a church tea party in 1985. Which, to be fair, and considering this was 1986, was sort of my fashion inspiration.
My cousin, suspicious and slightly overprotective, declared he’d be present to inspect surfer-dude upon arrival. Probably hoping he could telepathically shame me out of going.
The doorbell rang and my heart did a backflip. I sat on the couch facing away from the door while my cousin opened it. I could only see my cousin’s face — which instantly drained of color, like he’d just seen a ghost, or worse, a tax inspector.
I thought, Wow! He must be as smitten with surfer-dude’s good looks as I am!
Then surfer-dude walked in.
Billy Idol at the Door
Dear Reader, I too turned ghost white.
Gone was the sun-kissed, beach-blond Adonis from the laundry room. In his place stood Billy Idol’s rebellious second cousin — the one who got kicked out of punk band practice for being too extreme.
His once tousled blonde beach hair was now sculpted into a Mohawk so sharp it could slice bread. A giant black lightning bolt was painted across one cheek like a tribal tattoo from the Book of Bad Decisions. His ears sparkled — not from jewelry, but from a full runway of safety pins marching up both sides like tiny metallic centipedes.
He wore a black leather jacket covered in studs and chains (because zippers are for the emotionally stable), skintight leather pants that looked like they’d been applied with oil, and heavy black boots with silver studs that could tenderize a rump roast just by looking at it.
I sat there blinking like someone who’d just opened the door to Narnia and found out it was hosting a biker convention.
My cousin stared at me. With VERY big eyes.
I stared at my cousin. We both silently screamed, Abort mission!
But the words never came.
So I grabbed my handbag, hitched up my mother-in-law-made skirt, and followed Punk Rock Armageddon out the door like this was the most normal Friday night ever.
Driving to Mexico
We climbed into his large red pickup truck — a vehicle so big I needed a small trampoline just to get into it. As we cruised south toward the border, I began to relax. Miraculously, Billy Idol’s persona had disappeared and Surfer-Dude was back. He was charming again, chatty, me trying very hard not to notice that my date looked like he’d crawled out of a Mad Max sequel.
He told me, with the enthusiasm of a Labrador puppy, that we’d be meeting up with his friend “Doc,” who, according to him, was an incredible dancer. I imagined some sleek, salsa-swinging, Patrick Swayze-type character. In my mind, I was now the lucky girl about to be flung gracefully between two rhythmically gifted men like the rose between two very funky thorns.
We arrived in Tijuana and, miraculously, found parking close to the border. That in itself should have been a sign from heaven — or perhaps a warning. The gates were flung wide open like Disneyland for college kids—if Disneyland had tequila.
You see, in Mexico, the legal drinking age is 18. Combine that with cheap tequila and no parental supervision, and voilà — welcome to TJ: the official training ground for tomorrow’s hangovers.
We joined the crowd, and I did my best to look worldly and unbothered, despite being wrapped in a homemade skirt and clutching my tiny handbag like it contained nuclear codes. We passed rows of Mexican vendors enthusiastically grilling “sausages” on makeshift grills over little roadside fires.
Now, if you weren’t paying close attention, it all smelled delightfully meaty and vaguely adventurous. But I had been previously warned by fellow South Africans: do not, under any circumstances, eat the sausages. Unless, of course, you’d always dreamed of biting into a well-dressed rodent marinated in motor oil and mystery.
So I smiled politely, kept my nose in the air, and power-walked past the “ratwurst” brigade.
The street soon transformed into what Americans affectionately call The Golden Mile — a stretch of clubs, lights, music, and regret waiting to happen. It was a neon-lit buffet of bad decisions, and we were about to dive right in.
And honestly, at this point, I still thought we were just going out dancing.
We weaved through the crowd like salmon swimming upstream, eventually arriving at a dingy staircase that led to what I assumed was a club. Up the dark stairs we went, and boom — we were on the dance floor.
When he spoke about Doc earlier, I naturally had pictured a chill surfer type with sun-bleached hair and maybe a backwards cap.
Not even close.
Out of the fog machine haze and frantic strobe lighting emerged a towering Black man who looked like a cross between Mr. Clean and a tribal warrior from the future. He was bald, except for a single, determined plait of hair that sprouted from the middle of his forehead and swung with purpose like it had its own personality.
Dancing with Doc!
Doc gave a brief nod — a silent “yo” — and then jerked his head toward the dance floor like a general leading his troops into battle.
Now let me set the stage: the extent of my dance background was performing ABBA routines in a friend’s living room to impress her parents. I was more “Dancing Queen” than “dance floor queen,” but I figured — how hard could this be?
Well.
Turns out, Doc and my Billy Idol lookalike had moves that could only be described as interpretive martial arts. Arms were flailing like spaghetti in a wind tunnel, legs were kicking like caffeinated can-can dancers, and Doc’s head was bobbing up and down so violently that his hair-plait had turned into an actual whip. I swear it whistled when it sliced through the air.
It was chaos. It was wild. It was… apparently mesmerizing.
Before I knew it, the dance floor had cleared around us like we were breakdance royalty. A human circle had formed, and I — Heaven help me — was in the middle of it. People were watching. People were cheering. I was becoming part of the floor show.
And friends, I was not ready to be a floor show.
Unable to take the spotlight (or the fear of being decapitated by Doc’s hair-whip) any longer, I frantically motioned to my date that I needed a bathroom break. I think he got the message — or he thought I was doing interpretive mime. Either way, off I scuttled.
Now, if you’ve never used a club bathroom in Tijuana, count your blessings. This one was… an experience. Imagine a horror movie bathroom, but add graffiti, no toilet paper, and a smell that could singe your eyelashes. I did what I had to do, avoided making eye contact with the mirror (because I think it blinked at me), and returned to the dance floor — mentally prepared to be whipped into oblivion once again.
Except… they were gone.
Vanished. Poof. No Billy Idol. No Doc. No plait.
Alone in the Golden Mile
Just me. Alone. In TJ. In a purple pencil skirt. I began to walk around the club, trying to find them. I wandered and wandered, and after half an hour, fear started to gnaw at the pit of my stomach. I worried they had gone to another club and left me behind. I searched the club for another fifteen minutes before looking for them at other clubs.
Back on the street, I did what every good Christian girl abandoned by her Billy Idol date in Mexico does: I wandered up and down the Golden Mile like a confused tourist who’d taken a wrong turn on the way to Bible study. This infamous stretch was bursting at the seams with clubs, restaurants, and an alarming number of establishments advertising things that I’m pretty sure my mother would need prayer counseling just to read out loud.
I probably got halfway down the Golden Mile before realizing it was getting late. All the establishments were beginning to empty as the teenagers headed back to the American side of the border before midnight.
I became increasingly panicked as I contemplated what I would do without a passport to get back into America. The streets were emptying quickly as the Americans re-entered their own country. A few local Mexican street vendors were leering at me muttering spicy remarks in Spanish that need translating to me blush seeing I was clearly out of my depth in my little purple pencil skirt and white shirt. I wandered around with a completely bewildered look on my face.
I tried to find the first club where we started the evening and where I lost my date and Doc. But by now, every door and doorway to a club looked the same. I tried one, but it wasn’t the right place. I looked around and eventually realized that I wouldn’t find them on this side of the border.
Lost and deserted in TJ
So, without a clue what to do next, I started the walk back to the border post. By now, the streets were completely empty except for a few American stragglers still making their way through the border gates. I stood there, looking at the border post, frozen in terror and utterly unsure of what to do next.
The only thing that came to mind was to pray the only prayer I could think of in my panic – the Lord’s Prayer. So, under my breath, I began, “Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be your name. Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven…….”
As I stood there, once again glued to the floor and silently praying the Lord’s Prayer, a man’s voice behind me said, “Hey, are you OK?” I turned around and saw two young men, possibly in their early twenties, wearing white shirts and blue jeans. Because they were dressed the same, I thought they might have been waiters at a restaurant or bar or something.
I was about to explain that nothing was okay—but instead, I burst into tears. One of the young men stepped forward gently and asked, “Hey, how can we help you?” Through broken sentences, between sniffs and tears, I told them I was South African. I explained that I had come on a date, but he had deserted me. I told them that I been searching for him for hours, and now I had no idea how to get back into the United States because I didn’t have my passport.
One of them looked at me with quiet confidence and said, “Don’t worry. We’ll help you.” There was no hesitation. No judgement. Just calm, steady reassurance from two strangers who seemed to know exactly what to do.
Without fuss, he laid out a simple plan. We would walk together toward the border post. He would go first, I would follow, and his friend would come last. As each of us passed through the gate, we’d say just one word: “States.” He’d say it first, I’d echo it, and then the friend behind me would say it last. It was a code of sorts—something the border control officials recognized as a sign that we were American teenagers returning from a night out.
It was a fragile plan, but in that moment, it felt like grace.
Once again, I found myself placing my trust in the hands of complete strangers. But this time, instead of fear, I felt an unexpected and overwhelming peace. Just knowing someone was willing to help, lifted the weight that had been pressing on my chest all night.
My heart was POUNDING as we approached the turnstiles at the border post. We moved forward exactly as planned. The first guy stepped up and said, “States.” And went through the turnstile. I followed with my own quiet, “States.” Then the friend behind me echoed it. Just like that, without hesitation or question, we were through.
Saved by a wing and a prayer
And before I could fully take in what had happened—I was back on American soil.
I can’t remember what we talked about as we walked back toward the car—maybe the adrenaline was still too high, or maybe I was simply too relieved to care. But there it was: my date’s red pickup truck, parked exactly where we had left it hours earlier.
I pointed it out, and one of the guys asked, “Well, do you want us to take you home?”
I shook my head. “No, I’ll just wait in his truck.”
As much as I appreciated their kindness, I didn’t want to press my luck. I knew Billy Idol hadn’t crossed back through the border yet, so I figured it was safest to wait for him there.
I found the truck unlocked, climbed in, and locked the doors behind me. I sat there for a while before finally lying back on the seat, completely overwrought and exhausted. Before long, I drifted off to sleep.
I don’t know how long I’d been asleep when I heard the driver’s door open and my date’s voice: “Oh, there you are.”
By then, I was furious. I can’t remember exactly what was said, but he offered some excuse about he and Doc having stayed in that first club the entire time I’d been searching for them in the streets of Mexico. I argued, insisting I had searched that club thoroughly before venturing out.
Despite it all, the ride home was quiet. All I felt was relief that I’d live to tell the story another day.
Here’s the thing about that night—something I only discovered years later. While I was lost, bewildered, and alone, searching for my date and Doc, my mom was at her desk during the day in South Africa when she suddenly felt a strong impression in her spirit that something was wrong. She felt a tightening around her heart and knew she needed to pray for me. She and my dad began to pray fervently in the spirit on my behalf.
I honestly believe those two young men who appeared out of nowhere, when everyone else had vanished, were angels sent to guide me out of a potentially life-threatening situation—just like the 39 angels who protected David Livingstone.
That night showed me just how powerful prayer can be, especially the prayers of a parent. Even though my mom was thousands of miles away, working quietly at her desk, her spirit was deeply connected to mine. Her prayers, filled with love and desperation, crossed oceans and time zones to surround me with protection when I felt utterly lost. It’s a beautiful and humbling reminder that no matter where we are, the prayers of those who love us can be a lifeline, a shield, and a source of hope when we need it most.
I often think back to that night in Mexico—the fear, the loneliness, the panic that clutched at my chest like a vice. But then I remember the peace that followed. It came not from logic or planning, but from something deeper, unseen. It came with two young men who appeared just when hope seemed lost. They didn’t have wings or halos. They didn’t shine or sing. But they knew exactly what to do. And I knew—deep down—that they weren’t just any strangers. They were sent.
Scripture tells us that God commands His angels concerning us, to guard us in all our ways (Psalm 91:11). I believe in that promise. Not just as poetry or metaphor—but as a living, breathing truth. Angels may not always look like the stained-glass images we’ve grown up seeing, but they’re real. They move when we call out to God. They show up when there’s no one else left. They walk beside us, unseen but present, especially when danger closes in and we are at our weakest.
That night, I didn’t just get rescued. I was protected. Covered. Surrounded by grace I could not see, but could absolutely feel. And I believe it was the prayers of my parents—tuned to heaven—that moved God’s hand to send help. When we pray, especially when we pray for our children, we invite heaven to stand guard. We unleash angels to fight battles we can’t even see. And sometimes, they show up in denim and white shirts, speaking peace and guiding us home.